How to use the power of silence is crucial in today’s world as we are constantly occupied with work, internet/social media surfing, and future plans. This has made us become accustomed to distracting ourselves, rather than experiencing the silence and enjoying the solitude which helps us understand and work on our emotions, feelings, and thoughts. This habituation to the noise and distractions often leads to accumulated stress which might easily progress into burnout.
Hence, by being intentionally silent, we can take a break from the outside world and focus on the inside of us.
Building the power of silence:
Familiarising ourselves with silence may not feel easy in the beginning. It is advised to build a daily practice of intentional silence lasting to about 10 minutes, where you sit with yourself and think about your feelings, and/or any recent events. This practice involves switching off all your gadgets, finding a time slot during which you feel most comfortable to sit with yourself, and finding a quiet place for you that you may call your “silent space”. You can also set daily reminders for this to boost your commitment.
After settling into that routine for a couple of days, you can try other variations and methods such as adding mindfulness exercises. Start with a simple one where you observe your surroundings, for instance, the objects in the room or the sky, and then focus on yourself, by noticing the curved lines on your palms, feeling your breath as you exhale and inhale, and even the emotions experienced while the breeze passes by your face.
You can even practice silence during conversations, by mastering the art of taking a pause. Hence, try to take small pauses in the conversation you have today, for instance, you can pause before you respond to others and observe how it empowers your communication.
Mastering these steps will help you better respond by understanding and assessing the situations. For example, if you are in an uncomfortable space with your friend or coworker during a conversation, choosing to practice being silent would convey the message more powerfully than a heated argument would.
It can also prove to be beneficial in a negotiation situation where you want the other person to give their part of the information first so that you can capitalize on it, for this, ask the other person what you want to know and be silent, and eventually they will give you information to break the tension.